“Family Legacy Trees represent patterns of beliefs, actions, feelings, and even body dis-ease passed down from generation to generation. You may not be able to choose the legacy tree you receive, but you can absolutely choose the legacy tree you nourish and leave. 

What do you choose to leave?” 

– Dr. Lynyetta G. Willis

If you’re anything like me, you can list qualities, beliefs, and experiences that you took from your childhood that serve you as an adult. Even if those qualities were hard won from pain, you’ve managed to make them into positives. For me, some of those would include:

  • Resilience
  • A love for learning and education
  • A deep respect for individual differences
  • Determination
  • Awesome work ethic
  • A willingness to advocate for others and myself


At the same time, there may also be qualities or experiences that you want to strengthen or release altogether. For me, some of those would be:

  • Spanking
  • Addiction
  • Chronic illness
  • Broken marriages
  • Abuse
  • Shaming


While awareness is a KEY first step, it isn’t enough to just say:

“I refuse to pass this on to my child!”

I mean really, if it were that easy those qualities and experiences would’ve stopped generations ago, right?

With that said, not only is it possible to transform our unhelpful legacies but once we’ve identified those patterns, the greatest gift we can give to our children (grandchildren, great grands etc), is to actively face and do our best to transform the patterns we’ve labeled as “NOT helpful.”

Now you know me well enough to know that I’m not going to make a claim like:

“Transform Your Legacies!”

*mic drop*

and exit stage left…lol.

I actually made a (less than) 3 minute video for you! In it you’ll:

  • Explore the two types of legacies we all possess.
  • Discover one powerful mindset shift that will take you from judging those who raised you to self-empowerment.
  • Receive two powerful questions that will help you begin transforming your legacy today.

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So what are you waiting for!? Watch the video below so you can start breaking old cycles and building a new legacy for yourself, your kids, and your most meaningful relationships.




P.S. For you, my dear, I put a video together that will help you transform the generational family patterns you want to release and strengthen those you want to keep. Click the play button on the video above!

P.P.S. Maybe you know you’ve got a few family patterns your’e ready, willing, and able to transform but you need support. If so, let’s hop on a call and get a plan started. Ya know I love hearin’ from ya!



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Hi, I'm Lynyetta

I'm a psychologist and family empowerment coach for self-aware women and their families.